Best Coaching Blog 2012

Hello everyone,
The School of Coaching Mastery is holding a competition of the Best Coaching Blog for the year 2012. I have been blessed so far with an increasing number of followers who really inspire me and motivate me to continue doing what I do best, Coaching and writing articles around my experiences in this field.

The reason why I participated in the competition is because I am hoping to attract even more traffic to my website and blog, and enrich my contacts’ list.

All of your comments, follows and Likes have made me feel that I’ve been in the company of all of you. What a great and motivating feeling it has been!

Therefore, I would really appreciate it if you’d take a minute to vote for me clicking the following button (which you can also find to the right side of the screen on my website http://www.wisdomwithinconsultancy.com and my blog wisdomwithinus.wordpress.com

Thank you! :-)

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Conflict Resolution

“We cannot make someone responsible for how we feel”.  Gwen Randall-Young

This is a very useful clip by Gwen Randall-Young that inspires one on how to resolve conflicts in a positive and healthy way. The same negative pattern of dealing with conflict – regardless of all shapes and forms it takes – leads to the same results, i.e. not resolving the conflict and may even escalate the situation.

Some of the factors contributing to a negative pattern in resolving conflict are:

- Taking things personally.

- Reacting with anger, resentment and judgement.

Gwen suggests empowering techniques that help us gain control of a situation by targeting specific behaviors and setting boundaries around them.

Allow yourself to be inspired by her wise suggestions.

What Is Coaching & How Is It Good For You?

Coaching is the best career decision I have ever made in my life. It has benefited me before benefiting my clients, especially in experiencing the gifts of feeling non-judged and knowing you can completely trust someone with your own secrets.

A lot of people always ask me what coaching means. So I thought I’d dedicate this small post, explaining what coaching is, and how is it good for everyone, despite their age, gender, circumstances, etc.

The following information is taken from the following source: International Coach Academy Pty Limited Module 1, 2002.

The International Coach Federation defines coaching in the following way: “Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve their performances and enhance the quality of their lives.
Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual client needs. They seek to elicit solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful. The coach’s job is to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has.” (ICF website, 2006) Coaching is strongest in the United States, followed by the United Kingdom, Japan, Canada, Australia, Singapore and New Zealand, and is reaching more and more countries all the time.
Coaching is a comparably new profession. It blends the best concepts from business, psychology, philosophy, sports and spirituality. Although coaching combines skills from other disciplines, it is a distinct process of supporting others to create an ideal life. Coaches work with clients on a variety of topics: from business and professional issues to personal and spiritual concerns. A coach is an advocate, a sounding board, a cheerleader, an accountability partner, a truth teller and a supporter.
Coaching involves dialogue between a coach and a client with the aim of helping the client obtain a fulfilling life. This is achieved by helping the client establish what is important to them and by clarifying their values. With the client‟s input the coach co-creates value based goals and a plan to achieve them. Through collaboration, the coach supports the client to achieve these goals. A coach offers many things to the client during the coaching process such as:

1. Support to discover the answers within him or her self.
2. Clarification of values.
3. Co-creation of a plan for how to achieve what the client really wants.
4. A sounding board for new ideas.
5. Support in making life changing decisions.
6. Challenge to expand their views beyond their perceived limitations.
7. Direction
8. Acknowledgement
9. Encouragement
10. Resource of informationThe following clip explains further what coaching is:

Good & Bad Are Two Great Teachers

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One of the miracles in our lives is that we are constantly faced by two great teachers: The Good & The Bad. The Good may teach us a lot of good things, but The Bad can teach us profound lessons that may be crucially decisive in the choices we make in our lives.

Life can be so tricky sometimes. We face the good and the bad, yet we may never notice that both currents are teaching us a lot of valuable lessons. It is almost like we get in between two strong yet contradicting waves, each pushing us towards a different direction.

Live your life to best spiritual standards you can get, consult your conscience as often as you can, feel your pain as well as others, contemplate, meditate and celebrate. Then, you will be more likely to stop focusing on your own worries and fears of failure and you will commit to a better plan of actions with the insight that no matter what downs you get, you will still benefit from them by learning to avoid them in future endeavors.

The following is a short story by the famous inspirational writer, Paolo Cuelho, that recommends considering the good and the bad are two great teachers, to find the good even in the bad, with the objective of learning and moving on to better destinations.

“The master met one night with his disciples, and asked them to
build a campfire so they could sit and talk. “The spiritual path is
like a fire that burns before us,” he said. “A man who wants to light
the fire has to bear with the disagreeable smoke that makes it difficult
for him to breathe, and brings tears to his eyes. That is how his faith
is rediscovered. However, once the fire is rekindled, the smoke
disappears, and the flames illuminate everything around him — providing
heat and tranquility.” “But what if someone else lights the fire for
him?” asked one of the disciples. “And if someone helps us to avoid the
smoke?” “If someone does that, he is a false master. A master
capable of taking the fire to wherever he desires, or of extinguishing
it whenever he wants to do so. And, since he has taught no one how to
light the fire, he is likely to leave everyone in the darkness.”

Peace and love to everyone who’s reading my posts.

Razan

What Is Awareness?

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We may mistake awareness for being aware of what others have that we don’t, what they do that we do or don’t, or what their lives are like in comparison with ours. Being awareness is not being aware of things ‘outside’ ourselves. Such line of thinking serves to only compare who we are and what we have to standards that are or aren’t met by others. It is like a defensive mechanism, through which we define our understanding of ourselves and our lives from potential losses, threats, failures, or disappointments. So for example, if we are defining our being as someone who has a nice car, great career, wonderful relationship, fun parties, and so on, this is the way we are going to compare ourselves to others who are and have these elements in their lives. These elements – through such definition – become labelled as ‘Happiness-Generating Factors. The problem with this understanding is that it is set outward, and promises to always look outside of ourselves to seek happiness.  Therefore, it is like dedicating our lives, time, energy and soul, to walk a long mile that is never-ending in the desert, in promise of a sip of water.

Becoming aware is such a crucial internal process, through which we live our lives and go about choosing our actions. Being aware is understanding the patterns that interpret our connection to the world around us, as well as ourselves (our feelings, beliefs, values, spirit, and body). Total awareness in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is achieved through self-actualization, the highest level in the hierarchy.

Developing self-awareness is increasing your knowledge of yourself; i.e. forming an understanding of your identify within the world around you. Awareness can be stretched in diverse dimensions. The spiritual dimension is one of them, whereby one connects with their higher self, and feel their connectedness to the universe.
On the bodily level, there is awareness of the physical manifestations of the body, thoughts and feelings. Trying to engage your Self helps you check in regularly on it, which will serve in making you a happier person.

Listening to your Self, body, thoughts, feelings and actions, will help you understand who you are, what you really want in every situation (what choice you want to make), where you want to go, and how you want to be remembered after you pass away.

Awareness is a time and effort-saver that – once ignited – sets you on a voluntary journey toward inner peace and happiness with a no-going-back policy.

Three ways to increase your self awareness on the physical, emotional and spiritual sides:

- Keep checking in with yourself every time you exhibit certain signs of upset, stress, anxiety.

- Get in the habit of celebrating positive emotions and thoughts when they come up.

- Meditate/pray or listen to music while contemplating a positive matter.

Life is so beautiful. It’s about time we took off our sunglasses and saw it for what it really is.

~~Peace~~

10 Principles for Spiritual Parenting: Nurturing Your Child’s Soul

10 Principles for Spiritual Parenting: Nurturing Your Child’s Soul.